Real men: qualities, deeds, psychology

Self improvement

What are they, real men? Are not they the ones who are dressed in beautiful tailcoats, ride expensive cars, drink cognac of years of aging, smoke Cuban cigars, rocking in a rocking chair by the fireplace in a country mansion? Or those that take the child to the kindergarten in the morning, then run to work, and in the evening they lead them to practice? What qualities should they possess? We will understand this topic.

We learn the opinions of psychologists

A real man is a person, realized in his personal life and career. So, this is:

A matter that brings moral satisfaction and material good.
The family (the back) that he loves, about whom he cares and is responsible.

Both bring joy. And the material bar is different for everyone. A successful man is one who has enough money to support himself and his family, and remain at the same time happy and loved. And now we will talk in more detail about the qualities of this man.

Psychologists identify several basic criteria

What should be a man, in their opinion? So:

Have a sense of responsibility and not only be responsible for your words and deeds, but also take care of loved ones.
Have the ability to admit your mistakes, ask for forgiveness.
Set a goal and move towards it.
To show gallantry to women.
Be able to compromise.
Be brave, honest and courageous.
And also a hardworking, supportive family.
Possess empathy, the ability to empathize.

The image of a real man is stillcollective. After all, for every woman, her boyfriend must have a certain set of qualities acceptable to herself. But there is a general idea of psychologists, what should be a real man. He has the following character traits.

A responsibility

This is one of the best masculine qualities. With such a person it is not terrible to go through life, to create a family. Because he is responsible for his loved ones. The woman behind him will feel protected both in the soul and in the material plane. The only thing that he can demand in return is love and mutual understanding.

A man is responsive to words andactions. Before he thinks about it, then he does it. Moreover, it values time, health and respects its choice. He will not be exchanged for other women, because it is inexpedient, meaningless. Why create problems for yourself? He is always in charge of his own actions, he keeps his word.

Kindness

Do not confuse this quality with the spinelessness. And in no case can you believe that this is a sign of weakness. We'll run far ahead. Kind and affectionate dad is the dream of any kid. Only soulfulness and compassion, humanity will help to grow a real man from a child. Moreover, this quality is the key to a healthy psychological climate in the family, which is of immense importance for the formation and development of a small person.

A kind man is a fine friend, buddy andcompanion. It's easy with him, because in actions and deeds you do not have to search for a second meaning or background. He will do anything for good, without demanding anything in return.

Mind and self-confidence

Any woman dreams of meeting an intelligent man, withwho will not be ashamed to go out into society and with comfort and ease to remain alone. He will always find an intelligent and rational solution to the problem. Competently sets the goal and achieves its achievement, will be able to support any conversation, shining with erudition.

The second important quality makes it possible to achieveof the maximum. Only a confident man can become happy and successful, because he believes in his strength, knowledge and capabilities. He competently draws experience from a past life, skillfully using to build the future. He knows his own worth. And it will never be asserted at the expense of others, because it distinguishes this quality from arrogance. These are the inalienable qualities of a real man.

Self-control

Without it, you can not become a real man. This quality refers to volitional characteristics and includes courage, endurance, determination, masculinity, all that will contribute to the suppression of negative feelings and desires. It is directly connected with self-control of emotional mental behavior.

Let's try to get closer to the ideal

We learn about the distinctive features of a real man. So:

He counts only on himself.
Self-sufficient.
Independent.
Master of his word.
Purposeful.
Reliable and devoted.
Has a sense of humor.
Generous.

A real man is one with whom to live comfortably. A very important characteristic is loyalty, inherent, unfortunately, not all, as well as masculinity. Now that we know the signs of a real man, the image of the reliable father of the family began to appear in front of us. Of course, ideal people do not exist, but always want to strive for excellence. And how to raise a boy a real man?

Let's give some recommendations

We already understand how a real man should be, but how to make a son like that?

The main thing is not to deprive the child of love and affection. Parents are deeply mistaken in the fact that the boy needs less to regret. On the contrary, he needs warmth and tenderness to maximize, so that in adult life there was an example for imitation. He will also treat his children.
Do not be ashamed for your tears. The boy needs to release emotions, accumulated resentment and so on. In this there is nothing shameful. Otherwise, he will accumulate all this inside himself, which can lead to sad consequences, for example, to a nervous breakdown, depression, psychological trauma.
Do not hold back his mobility. It is necessary to take into account their physiology. Boys are more mobile and energetic than girls. Give your son as much space as possible for normal development. Take the child to the hockey or football section.
Do not scold your son without reason. He must understand what they are punishing or making a remark to give the second opportunity to lose this situation and get out of it correctly. Do not be long and tedious to chastise it. Boys can not hold on to emotional stress for long. They catch only the first words. Therefore, choking in emotions, you do not inform your child. He simply turns off and does not begin to perceive information at all.
Help me find the energy outlet in the right direction. Attach to cleaning, ask for help to bring the bags to the apartment. Chase with your son the ball at the stadium.

It is very important that the child grows emotionallyhealthy family. He must see the careful and caring attitude of the father to his mother, and learn to respect her in the same way. After all, the way a real man behaves will become the best example for a little person.

It’s necessary to educate a boy not by words but byby deed. Create situations around him that would allow you to show and show yourself at your best. Praise, constantly emphasizing that he is a man, brave, courageous and honest.

Deal with the child

We continue to understand how to raise a boya real man. By the age of five to six, the baby will become interested in Dad's instrument. You should not drive it away with expletives from a box with dangerous objects. On the contrary, let the father demonstrate his skills, give the child a hammer in his hands and help to hammer the first real nail. After all, it is useful to him in the future.

As they grow up, the baby should be explained how to behave with the girls, and from the sandbox say that they need to give in, protect, help and not be offended.

The boy should have his idol, a sample forimitation, as a rule, is the father, but perhaps he will want to become a strong and famous hockey player or film actor. This may be a book hero, so it will be possible to offer the child to read an interesting exciting book or go to the cinema or theater together.

Parents pledge love in a childtenderness, affection, qualities such as compassion, humanity, tact, ability to empathize. They also teach people to help, respect their elders. A father should show his son by example how to treat a woman. A mother will teach independence, accuracy, fully endow the child with love, kisses and affection. There is nothing wrong with having a first grader in his lap, hug and hold tight to his chest. The son must feel motherly warmth and fatherly care. And then there will not be the slightest doubt that a real man will grow out of him.

A little bit about the psychology of men

This is an important question - to know how their worksinner world. The psychology of a real man is the psychology of a conqueror, a winner, a getter. A woman needs to understand what her second half wants. To support him always and in everything, to help become successful, to direct, and most importantly, to be an assistant in any endeavor. After all, he needs not so much - a reliable rear and a quiet dock. A calm emotional homely atmosphere, comfort and warmth will allow him to calm down after a hard working day, gain strength and energy to conquer new heights.

You shouldn’t compete with him in any waymost diminish dignity. Do not dominate him, because by nature every man strives for power. Let companion be the leader in the family. Since he is reputed to be a conqueror, always remain an unread book.

By nature, they are stubborn. And here it is necessary to show cunning and flexibility. Only by taking into account the psychological characteristics of a man, can a woman be able to use them for her own purposes and give the chosen one qualities that are lacking. Just let him be a protector and support, winged and loved, he will turn mountains and become a real man for you.