Talking on the phone is not as difficult as it seems
The phone is one of the greatest inventionshumanity. Before the appearance of the phone, communication at a distance was very difficult, but the phone opened to the people a truly wide range of possibilities. However, along with the undeniable advantages of the phone, the society has acquired and new problems caused to them. Many people are either unable to conduct a normal dialogue on the phone, or simply do not like to do it, while being very sociable in the company of people. What does the conversation on the phone differ from the usual conversation?
The fact is that in a telephone conversationthere is no non-verbal communication. In addition to intonation, voice timbre, etc. a person does not receive from the interlocutor any additional information to which he is so used, subconsciously, of course, count. So people with highly developed abilities of non-verbal analysis do not like talking on the phone. However, in modern society without it anywhere. At least in two spheres of life the phone is extremely important for a man - these are business negotiations and the invitation of a girl to a date. Girls also quite often do not know how to communicate on the phone, but since a man acts as an initiator, a girl can overcome her fears a little easier.
A man must literally radiate confidenceas when talking with a business partner, and when talking with a girl he liked. Only a confident strong voice will help to succeed in these areas. By the way, in these situations there is much in common. It seems incredible, but it's true, because in both cases, the man's goal is to win, be it a date or a good deal.
And so, if your goal is a date - you are extremelyit is important to choose the right topics for conversation over the phone. Do not turn your conversation into an hour and a half conversation - for this you will have enough time on the date. You should immediately let the girl know why you are calling her. At the same time, note that if you are little acquainted, then, as a rule, she starts the conversation from the defensive positions. The girl is afraid that you will deceive her, make a joke on her, prove to be not who you say you are, etc. In addition, she is afraid that she will be ill on a date: boring, awkward ...
So you should start a phone conversation withattempts to break this ice. Speak clearly, confidently, do not allow jokes, show that for you a date is of great importance, and that you are very serious. Do not forget to tell her what you will do on a date when she can come home, etc. In general, do everything to stop worrying.
After the goal is achieved, stop talking on the phone, otherwise you are very much at risk because your spell will fall and she will change her mind. You will not get much more out of a conversation, but you can easily make a mistake and ruin a scheduled date.
All the above tips can be safely appliedand to business negotiations. In this case, you should completely abandon the topics. Politely take an interest in the affairs of the interlocutor and proceed directly to the discussion of the topic. Working time is limited, so the interlocutor, for sure, will appreciate your ability to speak on the merits and will define you as a business person. Conduct a dialogue confidently, immediately schedule your goal in the conversation and incline the interlocutor to it. Be a calm, thorough and competent person.
Remember that the main thing in a telephone conversation,whatever it is, is the ability to achieve the goal. You do not have to wonder how to learn how to keep the conversation going, because you do not need to support it, in principle. Achieve from the interlocutor what you want or leave him time for reflection, and all the friendly and extraneous conversations should be postponed for live communication.
